Is Your Cat Too Clingy?

If your cat seems excessively clingy and needy, she may have a behavioral issue that can be corrected. Here are some ways that you can help her.


When you’re walking around the house, he’s weaving tight figure eights around your legs. If you’re trying to take a catnap or watch some prime-time television, he’s happily draped across your neck, purring away. When you close the bedroom door at night to get some well-deserved sleep, he claws at the door and wails piteously. And he’s always between you and whatever you’re trying to read or eat.

Is this behavior simply too much love — or is it something more troubling? To many cat owners, extreme displays of feline affection can be cute. But clinginess and overdependence can also be annoying, obnoxious and even hazardous: Chronic ankle weaving can lead to serious falls, while persistent face-pawing can get you a claw in the eye.

There are also emotional and psychological dangers for the clingy cat. A cat who becomes overly dependent on his owner’s constant presence can be at risk for serious depression, and even illness, if the owner has to be away for any length of time. Some cats even refuse to eat unless their favorite human is present in the room.

Separation Anxiety in Cats

According to Nicholas Dodman, BVMS, Director of the Animal Behavior Clinic at Tufts Cummings School of Veterinary Medicine, chronic clinginess can lead to full-blown separation anxiety for some sensitive cats. The constant stress not only puts your cat at risk for illness, but also makes his quality of life marginal at best.

Additionally, extreme clingy behavior can erode your mutual bond — just when your cat is feeling most needy and insecure. The annoyance caused by the constant attention of an obsessively clingy cat can cause even the most loving owner to back away.

Currently, there’s no scientific evidence that cats of any particular breed or gender have a greater tendency towards clinginess. Each cat is an individual, with a unique way of handling stress, major life changes and the ups and downs of daily life. Differences in temperament, sensitivity, tolerance and tendency towards anxiety can predispose any cat to clinginess, but the cat’s environment and upbringing tend to be the most telling.

Early Indicators of Cat Separation Anxiety

As with any other feline behavior issue, prevention is much easier than trying to change clingy behavior. Happily, the ideal way to prevent clinginess and separation anxiety is actually quite simple: “Indulge them when they’re young and they will grow up independent,” says Dr. Dodman, the author of The Cat Who Cried for Help.

A cat who feels secure, safe and loved from his earliest days will most likely never feel the need to engage in obsessive clinginess. While monitoring his behavior to discourage bad habits, you should allow your kitten to enjoy as much contact with you as he wants.

Encourage closeness through daily interactive play, while fostering healthy independence by providing a selection of solo toys. Unless you suffer from allergies or have some other compelling reason to keep your cat out of your bedroom, allow him to sleep with you.

Reducing Your Cat’s Clinginess

Happily, there’s actually a lot you can do to help even the clingiest cat develop a healthy measure of independence and resilience. Let’s start with what not to do. Because clinginess stems from insecurity, avoid anything that will make your cat feel more insecure. Pushing your cat away, yelling at him, locking him away from you and the rest of his family, punishing him — all these can make an unfortunate situation worse. Often, the best response is…to give in.

Many times, a short, intense burst of interaction will satisfy your cat’s immediate need for reassurance. Indulgence, paradoxically, actually fosters independence. So, rather than pushing your cat away, stop what you’re doing and give him your full attention for a few minutes. Here are some other ways to help your cat:

1. Stop making a big fuss when you leave the house. Keep departures and arrivals low-key.

2. Ignore behaviors you want to discourage, while rewarding behaviors you want to encourage. If his constant yowling appears to have no effect on you, chances are that your cat will stop doing it. (Be consistent; this may take a lot of patience!)

3. Always be patient and gentle with your cat, no matter how busy you are or how persistently he annoys you. Try not to yell at him.

4. Rather than trying to stop a particular behavior, be ready with an enticing distraction (for example, tossing a solo toy across the room).

You can also redesign your cat’s living space to provide him with the closeness to you that he craves. For example, set up a tall cat tree right next to your desk, or a “kitty inbox” (a cat bed) right on your desk. Your clingy cat will find this privileged spot reassuring. Set up a second cat bed on or right next to your bed.

Bird feeders outside windows, with cozy window perches, or an aquarium of colorful fish can be like feline TV. You can supply pots of “cat grass” for nibbling indoors. Treat balls, food puzzles and cat tunnels can enrich your cat’s environment and give him something else to focus on. And adding a compatible feline companion or two can be very helpful, too.

Separate Bedrooms for the Cats?

Some especially clingy cats are so persistently vocal and active throughout the night that their owners can become sleep-deprived. Ordinarily, it’s unwise to shut an already insecure cat away from his beloved people. But if your cat just won’t let you sleep, set up a private room with everything he needs for comfort and convenience. Each evening, conduct an interactive play session, offer some tasty treats and perform your reassuring “good night” ritual.

In his room, turn on a radio at low volume. Close the door. And — most importantly — ignore any further entreaties. Once your cat understands you’re serious, he’ll eventually settle in for the night. Consistency is vital, though. It may take several days before your cat settles into the new routine.

Medication for Cat Separation Anxiety

Even with plenty of extra attention and an enriched environment, some cats will still persist in extreme clingy behavior. For these cats, a course of anti-anxiety medication can help. It’s important to understand that these medications are not “cure-alls,” but tools to help a cat’s anxiety and insecurity while he’s learning new patterns of behavior. Your vet can determine the best strategy and medication for your individual cat. Ask lots of questions to understand the possible risks as well as benefits.


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